by Jim O'Kelley, Director Elks National Foundation Early last summer, my mother-in-law, who watches the kids two days a week, took Patrick, the 3-year-old, to a reading at our local library. While there, Pack (that's what we call him) did something to earn her praise. Admittedly, that's not hard. She is a grandmother. Nevertheless, she was impressed and showed it by saying, "Good job!" That simple, seemingly innocuous phrase earned the instructor's condemnation. The woman swooped in, her finger wagging. "You shouldn't tell a child 'good job,'" she chastised. "It sets them up for a lifetime of seeking affirmation and praise." "Well, then what am I supposed to say?" asked my incredulous mother-in-law. "You should say, 'You worked hard, and you did it,'" the woman answered. We all had a good laugh later that day when my mother-in-law recounted the story. A funny thing happened whe
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